Sexuality Is Not a Side Topic. It’s a Pillar of Masculinity.

Let’s address the elephant in the fucking room.

Some men hear that one pillar of the Forge The Man retreat touches on sexuality and immediately tighten up.

“I don’t want to sit around with a bunch of dudes talking about sex.”

Good.

That reaction tells me exactly why this pillar is necessary.

Because mature masculinity isn’t about locker room talk.
It’s not about graphic details.
It’s not about ego or conquest.

It’s about power. Presence. Polarity. Purpose.

And if you don’t understand your sexual energy, you don’t understand your power.

Sexual Energy Is Life Force Energy

Every man in this world is here because of sex.

Sexual energy is not a dirty side hobby.
It’s the most primal creative force in your body.

The same energy that creates life
is the same energy that builds companies
leads teams
writes books
wins cases
climbs mountains
and transforms families.

The question isn’t whether you have sexual energy.

The question is:
Are you mastered by it… or do you master it?

If it leaks out through porn, compulsive validation, approval-seeking, fantasy, flirting for ego strokes, or chasing attention — it drains you.

If it is embodied, directed, and disciplined — it fuels you.

That’s not mystical nonsense.
That’s energetic reality.

The “No More Mr. Nice Guy” Trap

No More Mr. Nice Guy exposed something most men don’t want to admit:

Approval-seeking kills polarity.

When a man suppresses his desires to be liked…
When he avoids tension…
When he hides his edge…
When he says what he thinks others want to hear…

He neuters himself.

He becomes safe.
Predictable.
Pleasant.

And energetically… flat.

Women don’t respond to that.
Business partners don’t respect that.
Teams don’t follow that.

Not because they want an asshole.

But because they want grounded strength.

A man who is integrated with his sexuality doesn’t need approval.
He doesn’t beg for validation.
He doesn’t manipulate for affection.

He stands.

And that stance changes everything.

Polarity: Why Feminine Energy Responds the Way It Does

Polarity is simple physics.

Opposites create tension.
Tension creates attraction.
Attraction creates spark.

When masculine energy becomes soft, apologetic, and approval-seeking… polarity collapses.

When masculine energy is rigid, domineering, unconscious, and aggressive… polarity becomes unsafe.

Mature masculinity lives between those extremes.

Grounded.
Directed.
Unapologetic.
But conscious.

This is where the work of The Way of the Superior Man becomes powerful.

Deida teaches that a man’s core is direction — mission — purpose.

When a man loses connection to his mission, he becomes reactive and needy in relationship.

When he is rooted in purpose, his presence becomes magnetic.

Sexuality isn’t about performance.
It’s about presence.

And presence is felt long before it is seen.

Sexual Energy and Financial Success

You want to know something uncomfortable?

The same men who are uncomfortable talking about sexuality are often the same men struggling with confidence in business.

Because both require embodied power.

If you suppress desire, you suppress drive.

If you avoid tension in intimacy, you avoid tension in negotiation.

If you fear rejection in dating, you fear rejection in sales.

It’s the same nervous system.
The same patterns.
The same energetic leaks.

When sexual energy is integrated:

• You tolerate tension.
• You speak directly.
• You stop chasing approval.
• You hold eye contact.
• You make decisions faster.
• You lead without apology.

That translates into revenue.
Influence.
Execution.

This isn’t about being horny.
It’s about being fully alive.

What We Actually Do at the Retreat

Let me be clear.

We are not sitting in a circle sharing graphic stories.

We are addressing:

• Where men leak power through unconscious sexuality
• How shame distorts masculine presence
• How discipline and embodiment redirect sexual energy
• How polarity impacts long-term partnership
• How mission stabilizes intimacy
• How to move from approval-seeking to grounded leadership

It’s direct.
It’s mature.
It’s integrated.

And it’s a small piece of a much bigger weekend focused on forging men through all 9 pillars of mature masculinity.

What You’re Missing If You Avoid This Pillar

If you avoid this conversation, you miss:

• The root of your approval-seeking
• The reason attraction may have faded in your relationship
• The connection between drive and desire
• The energetic leaks draining your confidence
• The power that comes from integrated polarity

Sexual mastery is not repression.
It is not indulgence.

It is integration.

Mature Masculinity Includes the Whole Man

Physical Savagery without sexual integrity becomes reckless.

Spiritual alignment without embodied sexuality becomes disembodied and passive.

Emotional depth without polarity becomes enmeshed.

Mental fortitude without sexual awareness becomes brittle and rigid.

Sexuality is not a side note.

It’s a pillar because it touches everything.

If that makes you uncomfortable, good.

Growth lives there.

The Real Question

Are you avoiding this pillar because it’s unnecessary?

Or because it exposes something you’ve never fully examined?

Men who are grounded in their sexuality don’t fear the conversation.

They’ve already faced it.

And they’re stronger for it.

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If you want to become a man who is powerful in business, magnetic in relationship, steady in presence, and aligned in mission…

You don’t bypass your sexuality.

You integrate it.

That’s maturity.

That’s leadership.

That’s masculine.

THE MEN WHO WANT TO GO DEEPER — JOIN ME AT THE FORGE THE MAN RETREAT

If reading this hit you in the chest… good.
If it stirred something inside you… even better.

Because grounding isn’t learned intellectually.
It’s forged.

At the Forge The Man Retreat, you step into three days of unapologetic masculine embodiment work. Fire. Brotherhood. Stillness. Physical trials. Emotional depth. Spiritual grounding. Conversation around the flames. Clarity in the forest. A full reset of your masculine center.

This isn’t a seminar.
It’s a rite of passage.

If you’re ready to reclaim your masculine core, to become grounded in a way that no storm can shake loose, then step into the fire with us.

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Ben Dodge, J.D.
Adventurer, Author, Entrepreneur, Extreme Endurance Athlete, Lawyer

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